Lately, marriage and children has been on the mind a bit. Unsure about the trigger event.
Before I begin, here's an little peek into my mental life: I constantly mull over conversations I've had with people or articles I've read. And they pop into my head randomly. This is what I do when I'm bored. Hence conversations are an integral fuel source for my mind.
Anyway, So sitting in the car with Luis and thoughts about children came up. There are two factors that will affect my decision to have biological children:
1. The almost universal cultural expectation for women to have children.
2. The need to pass on my genes.
Between the two, I think the first presents a bigger barrier to a decision to not have kids. By default, if a couple has children, people will accept and be happy for them. Eventually, the parents themselves, even if reluctant at first, will come to accept and be thankful for the child. Social expectations help with that and the fact that humans are quite adept at adapting. On the other hand, if a couple/woman chooses to not have children, if seems like they owe most people an explanation as to why. So much judgment.
The latter is easier to overcome. Yes, I'm intelligent, but there are others. Who am I amongst Earth's almost 7 billion people to really say I'm unique enough to warrant passing on my genes? Honestly, I don't care enough about that. Doppelgangers.
This doesn't mean I don't want to have kids. I would like to adopt kids with intelligence within normal range. Not international because I've heard that it can cost about $30K. It feels dirty, like I'm buying a child. Probably domestic. There are plenty of kids here who needs help, why go abroad? Suffering is the same no matter where one goes.
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